Summary

新加坡夫妇结婚买组屋但不要婚礼:“做让自己开心的事”。

Oct 22, 2020 | 🚀 Fathership

观点:在新加坡,许多夫妇的典型生活轨迹是申请组屋,求婚再登记结婚,然后在之后的某个时间举行婚礼。

但新加坡的一对小两口Michelle Sng和Eric Yee,他们决定干脆不办婚礼。实际上,男方也没有求婚。

Michelle Sng在和Mothership的谈话中告诉了我们为什么他们决定用非常规的方式结婚。

我们在2020年4月2日结婚。

那天早上我八点半起床,穿上我的礼服(几年前我在我最好的朋友的婚礼上穿过的衣服),自己做了头发,化了妆,然后大约一个小时之后离开家去福康宁的婚姻登记处。

这一天和以往没有太大的不同,我们仍然按照我们的日常计划来安排这一天。

等等,那天你们俩都请假了吗?

在我不需要去现场的日子里,我可以灵活地随地工作,所以我不需要请假。

结婚当天,我还在查看电子邮件还有接电话。我老公那时没工作,所以他不需要请假。

你们登记结婚后做了什么?

在签署文件还有和我们的家人合影后(我母亲和奶奶还有我公婆和我老公的姑姑都是我们的见证人),我们俩在福康宁进行了迷你拍摄。

我们身边有一位专业摄影师——一位我和他共事过多次的好朋友,所以和他在一起很舒服。拍照大概花了我们半个小时。

之后,我换掉了衣服,我们俩一起走到新加坡管理大学的美食广场吃中午饭。

是你们一直计划不办婚宴,还是因为新冠疫情的影响?

不办婚宴一直是我们的计划。

我们在结婚前就开始研究转售公寓,在找到我们想买的公寓后才选定日期签署文件。我们需要结婚证才能买转售组屋公寓,所以在某种程度上我们是倒着来办事。

甚至连一个求婚都没有!

当我们决定谈恋爱的时候,我们都知道我们的计划是长期的。

人们现在不举办婚礼的情况很少见。它是你年轻时就一直想要的东西,还是你中途改变了主意?

我从来没有考虑过选择不办婚礼,因为举办婚礼很正常。

随着年龄的增长,我从想要一个宴会变成想要一个小型婚礼,因为我觉得如果这真的是一个重要的日子,那么只有在我生命中足够重要的人才应该被邀请。

但是看到我的朋友结婚之后,我意识到我并不太在乎婚礼。我喜欢参加婚礼(计划和所有美好的事情),但我就是不想自己办婚礼。

……我也意识到婚礼开销多大,我只是不想花那么多钱。

你老公有同样的想法吗?还是被说服了?

我们认为这是不必要的花销,因为我们宁愿花钱来建造我们的家。最后,我们只把钱花在了管理费、戒指和摄影师上面。

我老公从没想过办婚礼,我们在恋爱初期就讨论过这个问题,所以不办婚礼对我们来说没有什么好惊讶的。

我们没有求婚,所以我想也没有订婚吧?我们直接去挑婚戒,因为它对我们来说意义重大。

而且,我们真的很讨厌穿正装,所以一想到要盛装打扮一整天,就感觉很累人。

听起来你们两个都很酷。

我们很酷的啊!我们的约会之夜就是点印度菜。

最浪漫的行为都是一些日常生活中细小而体贴的行为。

比如在对方忙的时候或者感觉不舒服的时候就去做家务,请对方喝我们最喜欢的罐装饮料(有一次,我们都带着同样的饮料回家给对方惊喜!),告诉对方他们对你有多重要。

希望你们爱的家人朋友对你们不办婚礼也同样无所谓。当他们得知你们不办婚礼后反应如何?

我想没有任何人反对。实际上,都没有人感到惊讶!我的朋友和家人都很了解我。

我和我老公已经习惯了我们的生活方式,所以了解我们的人都知道,无论如何他们都不能改变我们的想法。

有些人可能会说,你可能会后悔没有举办婚礼来纪念这样一个大事。你怎么看?

恰恰相反,一个人可能会后悔举行了婚礼。谁能真的知道呢?在事后去评论总是很容易,但谁知道如果选择了另一条路,会发生什么呢?

说到后悔,我不会说太多。如果在某一刻我真的想要什么,而我却做了其他选择,我那一刻就会很不开心。

做让你开心的事!如果你想办一个盛大的婚礼,那就去办吧!如果不办婚礼能让你开心,那就不要勉强自己去办。

顶图来自Michelle Sng的Instagram


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Talent shortage in Singapore with 8 in 10 employers reporting difficulty in filling roles

Jun 15, 2022 | 🚀 Fathership

In ManpowerGroup Singapore's Q2 Employment Outlook Survey, the company revealed positive sentiments regarding pay increments and bonuses. In the latest edition of this report, for Q3, the sentiments have shifted towards hiring between the July to September 2022 period - labelled as "a record high" in the report.

In brief, Singapore’s net employment outlook (NEO) is at +40%, with the previous "record high" being in Q4 2011 at +31%. Further, employers surveyed in all 11 sectors (i.e. communications & media, manufacturing, and construction) anticipate positive headcount growth in Q3, with not-for-profit employers reporting "strongest" hiring intentions at 67%.

Despite the optimistic outlook, Singapore’s talent shortage level has been found to be at "its highest in 16 years", with more than eight in 10 (84%) employers reporting difficulty in filling roles. This statistic represented a 20% increase from 2021. Prior to that, talent shortage levels were quite high in 2018 at 56%, and in 2010 at 53%. According to the findings, the most difficult-to-fill roles are in restaurants & hotels (97%), other services (89%), and construction (88%).

That said, the "most sought-after" professions are: IT & data, operation & logistics, sales & marketing, manufacturing & production, and customer facing & front office. On top of that, employers are also looking at soft skills such as critical thinking & analysis, creativity & originality, resilience & adaptability, leadership & social influence, and reasoning & problem solving.

"The shift from pandemic to endemic has given companies greater clarity on their business outlooks," explained Linda Teo, Country Manager, ManpowerGroup Singapore. "Employers are ramping up their hiring due to a combination of factors like pent-up demand for manpower, employee attrition, and shortage of workers with the right skillsets."

Dissecting the local numbers

Filtering Singapore's NEO figure, analysts discovered that:

  • More than half (52%) of employers plan to hire;
  • More than one in 10 (12%) of employers expect a staffing decrease;
  • Close to four in 10 (35%) of employers plan to keep workforce levels steady, and
  • Less than five in 10 (2%) of employers are undecided about the hiring/talent scene.

In addition to not-for-profit employers having strong hiring intentions, those in other services (professional, scientific & technical, and administrative & support) similarly have positive intentions at 59%. These employers are then followed by those in banking, finance, insurance & real estate (56%), wholesale & retail trade (50%), and restaurants & hotels (46%).

A global perspective

Of the more than 40,000 employers surveyed across the globe, many are likewise expecting to hire more workers in the Q3 2022. According to findings, the global NEO is at +33% - which revealed hiring intentions to "increase year-over-year and quarter-over-quarter" respectively at +18% and +4%. In terms of per country/territory data, Mexico ranks top with a +59% NEO, while India has a +51%; Mainland China +29%, and Hong Kong +11%.

India's NEO is the strongest in the APAC region for the second consecutive quarter, up 13% since Q2. As for Hong Kong's NEO, it improved by 8% compared to Q2 2022, and by 10% compared to the previous year.

Looking at the hiring/talent scene, analysts discovered that digital roles continue to drive "most demand" with employers in IT & technology (+44%). This is followed by those in banking, finance, insurance & real estate (+38%), construction (33%), and manufacturing (33%).