Chinese Man Who Married Lost Love of 50 Years Dies in Her Arms

Jan 29, 2021 | 🚀 Fathership

Yuan Dibao, the man who captured everyone’s hearts in China for his enduring love, has passed away peacefully in the arms of his wife Danny Li, the woman he lost for over half a century. He died at age 90 on Thursday in Xiamen, located in the southeastern province of Fujian, South China Morning Post reports.

Dibao’s death comes seven years after his union to his beloved Li in 2010, in a love story dubbed by many as “the purest in the world”.

Dibao and Li’s amazing tale started way back in 1953, when the pair first met and immediately fell in love in Hangzhou, Zhejiang province, according to China Daily. Dibao was a medical student in Zhejiang Medical College when he first laid eyes on Li, a Russian language teacher. Born in Beijing from a Chinese art professor and a French mother, Li speaks multiple languages, including Mandarin, French, English, and Russian.

He recalled viewing her then as a “goddess walking in the wind” and couldn’t take his eyes off her. She, on the other hand, recalled viewing him as a handsome, brilliant student who impressed students and teachers alike. Despite being already married to a woman that his family had previously arranged for him, Dibao still found himself attracted to Li, so he put a great deal of effort into spending more time with her. They became very close, despite the social prejudice against student-teacher romantic relationships.

During a hiking trip in Hangzhou, Dibao sang a song to Li. Li replied with a song of her own, but it was in Russian so he did not immediately understand it. He memorized the words so that he could look up its meaning when he got home:

“Riverside in the field, flowers of strawberry blossom; a young man took my true heart, but I can’t tell him, and I can’t reveal all my heart.”

After realizing that she had developed feelings for him as well, he made the painful decision to tell her that he must stay with his wife and fulfill his duty as her husband. Heartbroken, Li left China during the Mao Zedong era and flew to France to live in Lyon.

For a brief period, they would still write to each other, but eventually, they lost contact during the Cultural Revolution when their letters began being sent back as undelivered. And for over 50 years, the pair lived their lives separately, without any form of contact. Dibao went on to raise three sons with his wife, who would later pass away in 1994 due to cancer.

A conversation with one of his daughters-in-law one day in 2010 would eventually bring a happy ending to the story of his lost love. Dibao was telling her about his regrets in life when his love for Li was brought up, and the daughter-in-law encouraged him to write a letter to Li’s last known address in France.

He did write the letters, five of them in total, which included one in Chinese to Li, and one letter to her relatives. The rest of the letters were to make sure one of the letters eventually reached her, in one way or another, even if he wrote that the address wrong. “I think the postman would have been really curious why this person sent five letters,“ he shared in an interview back in 2012. “He would probably have opened the letter and helped me to find Danny.”

The strategy worked — just 17 days after sending his first letter, Dibao got his reply. In her resposne, he found out that Li had remained single all those years. After 54 years of being separated with barely any contact, Dibao, then 82, proposed to Li, and she, then 83, accepted.

Four months after their long-awaited reunion, the couple made headlines across the country when they finally tied the knot as husband and wife on September 26, 2010.

Dibao will be remembered fondly, especially through the lyrics of the song he loved to sing to Li:

“One day when we were young,

That wonderful morning in May,

You told me you loved me,

When we were young one day.”

Feature image via China Daily.

Unrepentant teen with a long list of offences is why some parents shouldn't breed

Nov 25, 2021 | 🚀 Fathership

Ralph Wee Yi Kai, a 19-year-old Singaporean man, has pleaded guilty to eight charges on Nov. 25 during his plead guilty mention before District Judge May Mesenas.

The charges include consuming weed, causing unnecessary suffering to a frog, possessing imitation tobacco products, trespassing into the rhinoceros enclosure at the Singapore Zoo, and committing mischief by damaging property, reported CNA.

Another six charges will be considered during his sentencing.

Probation is "not realistic"

Wee pleaded guilty via video link from his place in remand, where he has been since Nov. 6.

The prosecution strongly objected to a probation suitability report, noting that Wee is "beyond the control of his parents, which renders probation unsuitable", according to CNA.

The prosecution asserted that probation "is not realistic" for Wee, based on his repeated offences and conduct in court.

They cited his "blatant disregard for rules", and urged for a reformative training suitability report instead.

Deputy Public Prosecutor Melissa Lee said Wee "has a tendency to abuse drugs and alcohol", which caused him to behave aggressively towards his parents.

He also "posed a risk" to them, which led him to be admitted to the Institute of Mental Health.

"Never expected it to come to this"

Wee's defence lawyer Shashi Nathan requested for the addition of a probation suitability report, according to CNA.

Shashi maintains that his family is able to supervise Wee, and added that his client "comes from a good family" who are "able to look after him".

He said that Wee was undergoing "a severe emotional crisis" when he committed his offences, and shared that the case has also affected Wee's family, especially after their home address was released to the press.

"While Ralph understands that what he did was wrong, he never expected it to come to this," said Shashi.

Difference between probation and reformative training

Wee was ordered to go though both assessments for a probation suitability report and a reformative training report, reported Yahoo News.

Offenders who undergo probation will not have a criminal record, while reformative training, which provides a more structured environment, results in a criminal record.

What Wee's lawyer said

Wee's lawyer said his client acted out after breaking up with his girlfriend, 18, who was the one who filmed the video of Wee backflipping in the zoo.

The defence lawyer, Shashi, said Wee spiralled into an emotional crisis as a result of his break-up.

Wee is homeschooled.

The court was told Wee saw a video of a man riding a giraffe and decided to make a video in the rhino enclosure, Yahoo News reported.

The ex-girlfriend had filmed the act and posted it on her private Snapchat account.

Wee posted it on his public TikTok account and a police report was made by a zoo personnel within the same day.

Wee removed the video when he was told to do so by the police, but reposted it on Dec. 18, before being told to remove it again, claiming he thought the video had been made private when he reposted it.

Wee had also included a link in his Instagram account biography to directed to a page selling t-shirts with the words "rhino ralph".

But he denied creating the merchandise profile.

He later removed the link.

Wee will return to court on Dec. 20 for his sentencing.

Timeline of events with updated details

Oct. 9, 2020, 2:40am: Allegedly committed an act of vandalism by hitting an information panel at a bus stop in Sixth Avenue, off Bukit Timah Road, causing S$900 in damage.

Allegedly caused damage to two cars -- S$2,800 to a Mercedes-Benz and more than S$1,600 to a BMW -- in nearby Sixth Crescent.

A taxi driver passing by reported him to the police, as Wee was standing in the middle of the road with a beer bottle in hand.

Dec. 16, 2020: Wee was placed on compulsory supervision for 60 months from Dec. 16. He was required to present himself for urine tests on each Tuesday and Thursday, but failed to turn up on four occasions.

He was placed on e-tagging during this period of time, after having been charged for his earlier offences.

He had to stay at home from 10pm to 6am as part of his bail conditions.

Dec. 17, 2020, 2.40pm: Accused of trespassing into the rhinoceros enclosure and taking a video.

Dec. 18, 2020: Reposted zoo video, despite taking it down earlier after being told to do so by the police. Told to remove video again.

Dec. 24, 2020: Accused of abusing a frog, which subsequently died, by hitting a ball against it on a foosball table, causing "unnecessary pain and suffering".

The incident allegedly took place at a Sentosa Cove property.

July 2021: First hauled to court and charged with two counts of mischief, as well as one count each of vandalism and criminal trespass.

Bail was then set at S$15,000.

Aug. 6, 2021: Allegedly consumed cannabis while out on bail. Arrested at his residence and two urine samples obtained tested positive for weed. S$15,000 bail revoked.

Sep. 14, 2021: Allegedly possessed an e-vaporiser and six e-cigarette pods at a ward in the Institute of Mental Health.

Three police officers showed up at IMH, where Wee was warded, to arrest him for failing to attend court.

He was admitted to IMH due to his drug and alcohol abuse, as had acted aggressively towards his parents when they demanded the drugs from him.

He was warded in IMH due to the risk he posed to his parents.

Oct. 13, 2021: Charged with one count of drug consumption while still in remand.

Bail raised to S$20,000 and Wee was released.

While out on second bail, Wee committed a string of offences, including cutting his electronic tag, according to ST, as well as not reporting for his urine tests on a few occasions, CNA reported.

The prosecution has called for an urgent bail review hearing to have Wee's second bail revoked for the alleged fresh offences.

Oct. 26, 2021: Allegedly cut a S$100 GPS ankle tag at an address on Leedon Road at about 12:10am.

Prior to this act, Wee was upset at his father, who had asked Wee to sleep early since he had to report for his urine test in the morning.

After arguing with his father, Wee decided to leave the house, and used pliers to cut off his e-tag before cycling to his friend’s house.

Upon discovering that Wee was missing, his father called the police.

The e-tag, worth S$100, was damaged and could no longer be used.

It was found in Wee’s house.

Oct. 28, 2021: Allegedly possessed an e-cigarette pod at the Leedon Road address.

Nov. 5, 2021: Warrant of arrest issued, as Wee could not wake up to attend court.

Nov. 6, 2021: Wee arrested.

Nov. 12, 2021: Slapped with four additional charges.

Nov. 25, 2021: Pleaded guilty to consuming weed, causing unnecessary suffering to a frog, possessing imitation tobacco products, trespassing into a rhino enclosure, and committing mischief by damaging property belonging to others.

Ordered to go though assessments for a probation suitability report and a reformative training report.